In This Issue:

• Note from Dawn: Summer fun...
• Interviews
  
• Feature Article: "Where Is Resentment Keeping You Stuck In Your Life?"

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Note from Dawn

Wow, summer is flying by.  Last weekend I went for a ride on the back of my friend's motorcyle.  We drove through the hills to a lovely historical town nearby where he took me to lunch.  It was so much fun.

Last week, I picked up my daughter and her best friend from volleyball camp in Redding, California and then took them to a big water park before we made the 3 hours drive home. They had a blast, especially in the 90 degree heat.

This week we added a new addition to our family... a six week old kitty my daughter named Tigger.  What a bundle of joy he is.  Every time I start feeling stressed, I look at this sweet little kitten, and remember how grateful I am for our animals.  They are such great stress relievers.

I've seen a good deal of my ex-husband lately.  His kids have been here for the summer and they enjoy hanging out with my daughter.  We have a loving, peaceful relationship now, but it hasn't always been that way.

My article this week is on letting go of resentment, which for me was the biggest challenge in creating a harmonious relationship with my ex-husband.  It took me some time, but I finally learned how to let go of the anger and resentment I felt, so I could move on.

With my growing specialty in helping women heal from heartbreak and divorce, if you know someone going through a challenging time who could use some coaching support, please feel free to contact me today.

Until next time,

With love, light and blessings,

Dawn

Interviews

I do a fair number of teleseminars and guest appearances for others
in the training and self-development world. Brysen Bristow is
a newcomer, and he pulled some pretty cool information out of me
during our interview last week. You can Listen to it here

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Feature Article

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"Where Is Resentment Keeping You Stuck In Your Life?"

After my divorce, the biggest hurdle I had to overcome was the lingering resentment I felt towards my ex-husband. It kept me glued to the past. It ate away at my self-esteem and chained me to seeing myself as a victim.

The definition of resentment is “Indignation, or ill will, felt as a result of a real, or imagined, grievance.”

Whether my indignation and ill will were real, or imagined was irrelevant. As long as I hung on to my resentment, I gave away my power to change anything in my life.

The blame I directed at my ex-husband was a convenient way for me to sidestep accepting responsibility for how I had contributed to the problems in our relationship.

My resentment was insidious in the way it showed up in my life. I ended one relationship after another. Nobody seemed good enough, because my resentment clouded my vision and prevented me from seeing any new relationship clearly. The dark, angry void inside of me was not something anyone else could fill.

Maybe I had a legitimate right to feel wronged and mistreated. But, I know my ex-husband would have said the same thing about me. One thing I know for sure, we are never alone in a relationship. Who we are on the inside is what shows up on the outside.

If I blamed my ex-husband for betraying me and treating me poorly, I had to ask, where had I betrayed him and treated him poorly? Where had I betrayed myself by ignoring my feelings and dismissing my intuition when it told me things weren’t right?

The truth allowed me to reclaim my authenticity and sense of self. When I saw my own pattern of dysfunction, and took responsibility for my part in creating the past, I was empowered to create something different for myself.

The pain and disappointment I experienced as a result of my marriage ending was the biggest catalyst for personal growth I’ve ever had. In my deep search for meaning and healing, it propelled me to look at parts of myself, and my behavior I had never seen before.

When I was able to see myself through the eyes of my ex-husband, I saw a more honest portrayal of who I was. Not good, not bad, just what was.
Virginia Satir said, “Life is not the way it’s supposed to be, it’s the way it is. The way you cope with it, is what makes the difference.”

In coping with what was, and who I was, I found the strength to change, and to make new choices. I also found the love, gratitude, and appreciation for my ex-husband and our marriage that had been buried under years of resentment. It was the best gift I could ever find. It allowed me to move on. I put the past behind me once and for all, and found the love and inspiration for my life I’d been looking for all along.

If you’re feeling resentment towards someone who hurt you, ‘un-stick’ yourself from the past, so you can be free to start creating a life you love.

Your Assignment: Find the source of your frustration, anger or resentment. What was it this person did that you still can’t forgive? What incident or experience can you not let go of? Now the difficult part… ask yourself, how did you contribute to creating this experience? Where did you not honor yourself and your own feelings? Were there red flags that you chose not to see?

Your answers will help you reclaim your power to see the past from a different perspective, and allow you to start the process of healing and forgiveness.

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If you would like support in healing from the past, send me an email detailing what you would like help with.  When you don't have to do it all yourself, all things are possible for you.  We will work together to transform your pain into power; move beyond fear, resentment and other sabotaging emotions; rebuild your self-respect, self-confidence, and self-love to healing; and reinventing your life filled with love and inspiration.

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Dawn Allen is a Love, Relationship & Divorce Coach and founder of Inspired Heart Coaching.  She is known for helping women "heal the love that hurt...," so they can recreate their lives with love and inspiration.  To receive her free special report and exclusive Live Your Dreams Ezine, visit www.InspiredHeartCoaching.com.

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Testimonials

Dawn was able to help me open a new chapter to an old story by asking questions and saying things that shifted how I saw the situation.  Talking with her helped me understand how to apply my energy differently to create changes not only in the relationship we discussed but in my life in general.

As is usually the case, it wasn't so much that she taught me anything as that she coaxed me to a deeper understanding of something I already knew but only intellectually.  I am so looking forward to what is about to unfold for me as a result!  Thank you, Dawn! - Lela Male

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Our session was absolutely invigorating.  I appreciate you for being who you are and sharing your time, and inspirational thoughts with me.  There was such an ease in talking with you, you have a gift for listening, sharing, sorting and processing.  I came into this with an open heart and mind and It was so amazing that we flew to such depths within me and really got to the core of the issue.  I'm so ready to continue on my path of healing the parts of me that will bring about more abundance in my life, for that I am so grateful! 

Truly Inspired,

Anna

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