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• Note from Dawn: Welcome New Subscribers!


• Program Highlight: Sacred Soul Mate Circle Group Coaching


• Feature Article: "How to Avoid Having a Man Suddenly Break Up with You"

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Note from Dawn

Hi %$firstname$%,

I’d like to send a warm Welcome Hug to all our new subscribers!  It’s wonderful to have you as part of our community and I look forward to supporting you in as many ways as I can.

I’ve recently been working very intensely with my business coach, Christian Mickelsen, and things have been hopping.  I’m so excited to be learning all kinds of new things to implement in my business to take it to the next level.

In addition, Paul and I are dancing Argentine Tango at least four hours a week and I’m giving my daughter piano lessons.  I’ve played the piano for years and just recently started playing again on a daily basis.  It has renewed my daughter’s interest in playing, so now we’re both practicing again.

One thing I have learned that is critical to my success in business and my relationships, is the more I take time to do the things I love, the more successful I am.  The minute I start giving things up, whether it’s for a man or my daughter, the more I find myself becoming less and less of who I am, and as a result, a lot less happy in my life.

My article this week is about how to avoid a sudden break-up in your relationship, but it’s also about what happens when we give up who we are for a man.  I’d love to know if this has ever happened to you… send me an email, will you?

This is the last week to take advantage of my friend, Nanci Adair’s very generous offer to give you a free Tarot reading if you join the Sacred Soul Mate Circle Group Coaching Program.  If you’ve been thinking about joining, this is the week to do it.  It’s an easy, elegant way to start working on what’s been holding you back from having the relationship you’ve always dreamed about.  I hope you’ll join us.

Until next time,

With love, light and blessings,

Listen to your heart, speak your truth, live your dreams

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Program Highlight

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In my new Sacred Soul Mate Circle Group Coaching Program, you will learn in months what it took me years to discover.

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Feature Article

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"How to Avoid Having a Man Suddenly Break Up with You"

I did a coaching session the other day with a client who was feeling completely disillusioned and disheartened about love.  She could not understand why the man she had been happily seeing suddenly broke up with her.

A situation I’ve heard before from many of my clients and have experienced myself.

So what went wrong?  There could be a number of things that prompted this man to break up with her, and that’s one of things we’ll be exploring in our coaching together.

But one of the biggest mistakes women make when we start a new relationship with a man is to make him the center of our attention and the focal point of our lives.

We wait around for him to call, we don’t make plans until we’ve heard from him, we try to analyze every text message or email we receive from him trying to figure out what it really means… essentially, we put all of our time and energy into making ourselves available for the relationship and put the rest of our lives on hold.

Then all of a sudden, out of the blue, the man either stops calling or he breaks up with us.  We’re left scratching our heads trying to figure out what happened.
Having lived through this challenge myself in the past, I’ve learned some valuable insights into why this happens and how we can avoid it.

In the beginning of a relationship, we need to be centered and grounded in our feminine energy, and in the mode of receiving.  What that means is we let the man pursue us.  It’s our job to stay happy and content with our own lives, so that we will continue to be the woman this wonderful man fell in love with initially.  This means being happy and content whether or not he calls, and whether or not we see him because our world does not revolve around him.

When a man becomes emotionally involved with a woman, he is, as John Gray describes it, like a rubber band.  The closer and more intimate he is with a woman, the more he feels a need to pull away.  His need to pull away has to do with his reclaiming his sense of self and autonomy as a man.  It’s just part of his masculine nature to feel the need to do this.  If we give a man the freedom and space he needs to pull away, he will feel his desire to be with us again and return with even more love for us.

The mistake we often make is when he starts to pull away, we panic and go after him.  We think there must be something wrong and so we start pursuing what we think we’ve lost.  The problem is, we end up coming across as needy and desperate to a man, and that just pushes him further and further away.
With men, absence really does make the heart grow fonder.  The more we can understand this in the beginning, the easier it will be for the relationship to continue to grow.

When a man realizes he can pull away and then return to a woman who is happy and understanding of his need for autonomy, he will feel less and less need to pull away for any length of time.  He will feel like he can be himself in the relationship and also have the ability to make a woman happy.

Men need to pull away in order to regain their sense of self so they can come back to the relationship feeling whole and complete.  If he doesn’t feel like he has the freedom to do this, he will feel like he’s losing parts of himself and that the only way he can keep his independence is to end the relationship.

Remember, your strength as a woman is being able to stay rooted in your wonderful, receptive, soft feminine energy and in your own life.  That is what makes you so appealing to a man to begin with… so share all that love you have in your heart not only with him, but also with yourself, and see how that man comes flying right back to you.

© 2009 Dawn Allen

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Dawn Allen, MS, CDC, CPTF, is a Love, Attraction & Relationship Coach and founder of Inspired Heart Coaching™.  Dawn specializes in helping single women attract the love of their lives.  Through her group and private coaching programs, she teaches you how to attract and create a deep, magical, and loving relationship by releasing patterns from the past.  To learn more about Dawn, visit www.InspiredHeartCoaching.com and receive her E-book when you subscribe to her Ezine, or email her at Dawn@InspiredHeartCoaching.com.

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